I finally got my name changed here at work a couple weeks ago. It’s funny that when people ask about it, and they find out it’s cuz I got divorced, that’s when they share their personal stories with me. I’ve had a handful of colleagues tell me about their own divorce, plus their post-divorce life.
For example: Tere, one of my coworkers in Mexico, told me about how she and her husband got divorced and how terrible the process was. Being in another country made it more complicated, since I guess Mexico frowns upon it, unlike here in the US. They had 3 kids, they were together since she was 17. And now, she is with another man but never remarried. She told me that she felt that she didn’t need that piece of paper to define anything and to complicate things. She is very happy with him and pretty much calls him her husband; just not legally.
I’m not saying that I’m never getting remarried or anything like that. It’s just nice to know that other people have gone through the same thing I have (or even worse), and that they’re all okay and even better now. I mean, I’ve known that, but hearing other people tell me again is a great reminder. It’s funny how incidents like this can bring people together.